Themes

Focus

Each of us is unique and much more than the sum of the experiences we have had in life. The secret is to discover how these experiences are interrelated and how our unique potential can help. 

Burnout and Depression

Everyone knows what it feels like to be tired, to have had a bad night's sleep, when your memory is letting you down, or when you are 'feeling blue' for a day. In such cases, recovery is almost naturally, because the cause is somewhat clear to us, because we accept it or take action in opposite direction and because such feelings are often not accompanied by persistent negative thoughts about ourselves. 
Burn-out and depression are not just over after 'a day or twoo' , they do not go away just by itself. Sometimes the cause is clear, sometimes there is not 'one' cause. Sometimes it has come to a point where we feel that we are no longer able to think or we get a headache just by thinking about it. 
We feel hopeless because we no longer know what to do or because we cannot find an immediately solution. We often have negative judgments about ourselves, we are focused on what we cannot do, and feel overwhelmed. We are caught in a negative spiral, which affects our functioning and our lives, which in turn damages our self-esteem and the positive image of ourselves. 

Do you recognize any of this? Let me help you to find the strength within yourself to break out of it.
There is a lot I can help you with, there is a lot you can discover about yourself and that can make you feel proud. 

Let's meet and talk about it. I am curious about you and your personal story. 

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Fear and anxiety

Everyone is scared or anxious from time to time. Fear is an emotion, and it is also a useful and healthy reaction if it helps you to avoid dangerous situations. For example, if your cooking pan is on fire, you’ll probably take quick action to extinguish the pan fire, and to save yourself and others.
But there are also situations that do not actually pose an imminent danger, such as shopping or traveling by public transport. Yet some people can be highly afraid in such situations, such than they no longer dare to go outside. Fear is than ruling your life.
Whether you are afraid to travel, causing you to avoid certain destinations, or afraid to be in public or closed spaces, causing you to avoid certain places or you are experiencing panic attacks that cause you to avoid exams, presentations or social situations: when fear paralyzes you and your personal functioning fear is no longer a healthy reaction and it is important to face that fear. 
I can help you with a taylor-made approach.
Take the first step toward a life free from fear and anxiety and book your consultation.

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Relationships

We are social beings and we are daily involved in all kinds of relationships: at work, at home, at school, with someone we love or online on social media. We don't share very deep personal feelings with everyone, yet the quality of all these different relationships influences how we think about ourselves, how we behave and how happy we can feel.
Conscious or unconscious expectations play a role in every relationship. Those expectations and our role(s) in a the relationship can cause tensions or conflicts. In itself there is nothing wrong with that. Often these tensions disapper as snow in the sun, or after a good chat, we understand each other and move on. Sometimes a relationship grow strong after a disagreement. Sometimes we come to the conclusion that we have grown apart and our relationship is over.
 But... we can also get caught up in lifelong quarrels, because we don't listen to each other, don't understand each other, or because we still feel angry and hurt, or because we think we are 'not seen'. Expectations then become 'obligations'. Our communication is no longer a form of finding each other,  but a form of conscious or unconscious aggression, which leads to hurting each other. We are no longer connected with each other.

Do you recognize any of this in your relationship? Would you like to re-connect with each other? I can help you with it.
Expectations that "become obligations" are in fact needs, of ourselves and others, that are not recognized. 
What if instead of "expecting" we learn to recognize our needs and communicated them in a nonviolent way?
What if we could turn potential conflicts into peaceful dialogues that connect us ? 
The American psychologist Marshall Rosenberg investigated this and mapped it in his book “Nonviolent Communication”. In my practice I integrate his insights and method with techniques from other terapeutic approcheas  and hypnotherapy. 

I help couples (hetero, LGBT / LGBT), but also everyone who has become entangled in a relational conflict or is going through a crisis. 
Examples of other relationships are: mother and / or father and son or mother and / or father and daughter, sisters, brothers, friends or work colleagues. 
Therapy helps to: recognize and understand each other's needs, to let go of (fears, anger, sadness, ...), to say what you need to say, so that love and respect can be restored even when the desire is to end a relationship.
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The first step in therapy is talking. Let's meet and talk about what is bothering you and what you want to change
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